Bad vibe is like porn; we know it when we see it. To paraphrase author Will Bowen, Bad vibration is like bad breath. We notice it when it comes from others but not when we give it out. We all have an element of vibration that might not be in sync with whoever we interact with based on context, environment, place and time. The key is not to be that person about the low-frequency vibration. Some people get into these lower vibrations due to the vicissitudes of life, such as losing a loved one, losing a job, getting a divorce, having a heartbreak or dealing with an incurable health situation. Life can be tricky sometimes, as we all face these challenges. Everyone is going through something that you know nothing about.
Allowing people to dump their emotional garbage on you continuously is not great for your mental health. One of the beauties of life is that we all have the agency to choose how we will handle any situation. When people bring bad vibrations around you, raise your vibration. Have empathy and be kind, but keep your peace at all costs. Life is too short to be baby-sitting adults, trying to convince or project your worldviews onto others. My life changed the day I realized one of the fundamental truths of life: “You can’t really change anyone but yourself”. Everyone is doing the best they can based on their upbringing, indoctrination, early childhood programming, life experiences and worldview.
Your job is not to lecture or project your worldview when they bring bad vibrations. Your job is to set healthy boundaries and protect your peace of mind. In the course of your day, you will come across a variety of people with bad vibe tendencies, such as time wasters, energy vampires, naysayers, drama queens, chaos kings, entitled princes, delusional princesses and a host of others. The key to navigating the roller coaster of dealing with these people is to confirm who you are dealing with and protect yourself with boundaries after confirming the kind of beast you are dealing with. Dealing with this kind of people can be extremely tough, especially when they are close friends or family members.
People always show us their true character by how they show up daily. Maya Angelou once said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” But for most of us, we keep giving people the benefit of the doubt, and they keep breaking the trust we have in them. They get the benefit, and you always get the doubt. Stop draining your energy by spending less time with these folk. You are special, and you should not spend time with anyone who does not recognize your awesomeness, uniqueness and magnificence. Don’t go to where you are tolerated, go to where you are celebrated and respected.
Meditations
Daily Calm with Tamara Levitt – Consistency
Meditating for any amount of time is better than nothing at all. One key to a successful practice is practicality. If you set the bar too high, it is easy to get discouraged and quit; instead, start with a realistic duration per day even if it is short. After a month or two after you’ve had a consistent daily routine at that duration, try increasing it by another 10 minutes or so. With less friction, motivation is easier to muster. Be gentle with yourself.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. – Arthur Ashe
Daily Jay with Jay Shetty – What Stays the Same
Change is tough; it is like turning a massive ship. Part of the challenge of getting people on board is that people in an organization often resist doing things differently. When the ground beneath us is shifting, focusing on sources of stability can help us feel anchored and safe.
Daily Trip with Jeff Warren – Let’s Celebrate
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All the best in your quest to get better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion
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