American author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn often said “Life is the struggle to keep death at a respectable distance. Death wants to move in prematurely. Life’s job is to keep pushing back!”. One of the major activities we can engage in to keep death at a respectable distance and give ourselves a fighting chance of staying alive for a longer time is movement/engaging in physical activities. The World Health Organization (WHO) defines physical activity 1 as any bodily movement produced by skeletal muscles that requires energy expenditure. Physical activity refers to all movement including during leisure time, for transport to get to and from places, or as part of a person’s work. The WHO recommends engaging in at least 150–300 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic physical activity per week.
The world is full of opportunities but the POOR sees challenges in every opportunity instead of opportunities in every challenge. As the author of The Richest Man in Babylon, George S. Clason said “Opportunity is a haughty goddess who wastes no time with those who are unprepared.” The unprepared can spot the opportunities around them as they see a problem in every challenge instead of seeing it as an opportunity. POOR is an acronym for Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly. The co-founder of the multinational technology conglomerate, Alibaba Group, Jack Ma described what it means to be POOR and what serving POOR people looks like. He reacts:
As the saying goes, you don’t have to be great to start but you have to start to be great. Most of us want to be ready before we start, but the reality of life is that everything will not always align or go as planned, but the key is to keep moving. The momentum that you gain as a result of taking action will eventually build your self-confidence and belief in your capabilities. The hardest part of any journey is taking the first step, committing to a goal, and executing it relentlessly. There are going to be ups and downs, detours, diversions, and stop signs, and sometimes, giving up might be considered but with persistence and perseverance, most goals are achievable.
In his poem, The Road Not Taken, American poet. Robert Frost wrote “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less travelled by, And that has made all the difference.” Our natural human tendency is homeostasis, our inclination to look for the path of least resistance, the easy route, the shortcuts, and go through the road often travelled. As Frost noted in his poem, taking the road less travelled made all the difference. The road less travelled is the third door, it is not obvious to most of us as it takes the relentless pursuit of a course bigger than us, it requires seeing the big picture and staying committed to our priorities and goals. To achieve anything worthwhile in life, courage is an essential component of getting great things done. If you do what everybody is doing, you will ultimately get the same result they are getting.
We are all works in progress but we often underestimate our progress and overestimate what we are going to become in the future. It is a tendency that we humans exhibit and psychologists refer to as the “end of history illusion”. One of the keys to getting ahead in life is to understand that you can always become a better version of yourself and the best is yet to come. Your history is not your destiny, you can change the course of your life at any point by deciding to change the direction you are heading. As American philosopher and psychologist, William James once said “The greatest discovery of our generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. As you think, so shall you be.” Good better best, never let it rest until good is better and better is best.
The word Allodoxaphobia comes from the Greek ‘allo’ meaning different, ‘dox’ meaning opinion and ‘phobia’ meaning ‘fear’, ‘aversion’ or ‘morbid fear.’ Allodoxaphobia is at the root of why most of us will not live to the best of our ability. We fear what our spouse, parents, siblings, friends, acquaintances and family members would say about our choices, decisions and way of life. An opinion is a transitory perception; it can change over time depending on the context. You have a wider context to your life, hence the need to make decisions enabling you to live on your terms. In your 20s, you cared what everyone thought about you; in your 40s, you stopped caring what others thought about you; and in your 60s, you realized that no one was thinking about you. The earlier you realize that no one is thinking about you, that is the moment your life turns around.
Since 2016, I have been experimenting with reading 100 non-fiction books per year. I started the challenge while I was still a resident in my country of origin: Nigeria. Executing the goal was a bit tough as I had to buy most of the physical books due to a lack of functional public libraries in the country. In 2018, I relocated to Canada, and that move changed my goal of executing potential, including the 100 books reading challenge. I was coming from a place of lack to a country with a vast public library network.
Most of us use our youth to amass wealth, which we use to care for our health in old age. We usually care better for our cars, toys and pets than our bodies. Your body is your only one; it is a temple and should be treated as one. You cannot fit a wheelchair in a Lamborghini. The Lamborghini is a metaphor for wealth, and if one does not prioritize one’s health in the process of amassing wealth, one will come to the truth eventually: Money will not make you happy. As Canadian-American actor and comedian Jim Carrey famously said, “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”
I recently joined a scabble club with many experienced and seasoned players. A typical game with these players involves 3-4 bingos per game. In Scrabble, bingo is a game wherein a player utilizes all seven tiles on the board in a single turn. These players understand their game, which is that “Scrabble is a numbers game and not a vocabulary game.” It is not the best speller or who knows the most vocabulary words that win, but the person who strategically places the tiles on the high-scoring positions on the board that wins. It is the same thing with life; it is not the fastest that usually wins in life but the most strategic. Life is a marathon, not a sprint; you need to pace yourself when running a marathon.
One of the habits of highly successful people is the art of visualizing what they aim to achieve in a day, season of life, and in their lifetime. They visualize their goals by using different strategies such as a vision board, mental visualization, and journaling. Celebrities such as Jim Carrey, Drake, J.K. Rowlings, Will Smith, Micheal Phelps, Tiger Woods, and Oprah Winfrey have all attributed visualization as a factor in their success. As the saying goes “Be careful what you ask for, you might get it.” Our subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish between fact, fiction, and reality. Research shows that 95% of our day is spent in the subconscious mind, we are on autopilot most of the time, thinking the same thoughts, ruminating on the same things, and making the same decisions.
Motivational Speaker Les Brown often said, “Until You Handle It with Grace, It will Stay in Your Face.” Life will happen to us all at some point; the storm of life is never-ending as you either go through a storm, leave a storm or head to the next storm. Whatever will go wrong will eventually go wrong at the least expected time. The key to navigating the vicissitudes of life is to accept whatever happens to one in life radically, focus on what you can control, learn the lessons and keep moving forward towards achieving your life’s purpose. Everything in life is transient, impermanent and does not last forever. Don’t get bitter; get better; don’t let it lessen you; learn the lessons, and don’t get stuck with the mess; get the message.
Tall Poppy Syndrome refers to the idea that all flowers should be the same size and that if one grows too tall, it needs to be cut down. 1 The Tall Poppy Syndrome 2 occurs when people are attacked, resented, disliked, criticized, or cut down because of their achievements and/or success. The tall poppy syndrome is a phenomenon that every successful person would eventually have to deal with as acquaintances, family, and friends begin to say things like you have changed,
Run for your life is a metaphor for taking initiative, betting on yourself, and trusting the process. We stay in toxic relationships, fail to set healthy boundaries, people please, and do not start or follow through with our wildest dreams because of the fear of what other people will say and the fear of failure. As American Pulitzer Prize-winning poet Mary Oliver demanded, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” This is not a drill or a dress rehearsal; there are no do-overs. This is it, and you’ve got to run toward your purpose and mission in life. Run away from naysayers to find your yay-sayers, run towards a life filled with joy, tranquility, and a sense of wonder. As American essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson observed “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to change you is the greatest accomplishment.” People pleasing, a lack of healthy boundaries and a fear of what other people would say about your life choices can get someone killed.
Meditation is a practice in which an individual uses a technique – such as mindfulness or focusing the mind on a particular object, thought, or activity – to train attention and awareness and achieve a mentally clear, emotionally calm, and stable state. 1 American Tibetan-Buddhist Pema Chodron observed, “Meditation is an invitation to notice when we reach our limit and to not get carried away by hope and fear. Through meditation, we’re able to see clearly what’s going on with our thoughts and emotions, and we can also let them go.” Meditation is one of the most consistent habits from reading about the highly successful people in the world.
I started meditating during the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown, and I have since made meditating a part of my self-care routine. As of this morning, I have meditated consistently for 697 days non-stop using the Calm Meditation app. Every morning, I meditate for at least 15-20 minutes by listening to the guided meditation of calm meditation instructors. My favourite guided meditations are Daily Calm with Tamara Levitt and Daily Jay with Jay Shetty. I often write out the meditation sessions I include in my daily blog. Meditation is one of the most transformative self-care routines I have stayed consistent with over the past three years, and it has helped me a lot during the dark and trying days that I have had to weather continuously.
In October 2022, I decided to shoot basketball for at least one hour every morning, and I have stayed consistent with the practice for at least 5-6 days weekly. My daily basketball shooting routine has taught me so much about failing and my relationship with failure. When shooting the basketball, one is bound to miss the shots multiple times inevitably, and the will to succeed eventually makes the basketball court a great place to learn about failing and persistence. My basketball routine is my attempt at developing a failure routine, and the more I practice on the court, the more I regulate my relationship with failure. Winston Churchill may be referring to basketball shooting when he said, “Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”