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“There are two types of people—those who wait to talk and those who listen.” –Anonymous

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In the Dolby® surround sound of our daily lives, we all have to find our own mute button. “Since a painting has no soundtrack, the title character at the center of ‘The Listener’ has found the best way to shut off all the noise in the visual cacophony around him by closing his eyes,” Christensen says. “Listening to his still, small, inner voice, he remains centered without being overcome. We can all find peace in this busy world, but sometimes need to be reminded that we are in charge of our destiny and each of us has the ability to focus without being pushed and pulled as victims.

The characters found in the colorful ‘noise’ around the listener in this painting take many forms including politicians, mothers-in-law, musicians, and famous artists . . . can you find Picasso? Through it all, our listener ignores the noise in favor of his own personal tranquility.”

All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.

American essayist and critic William Deresiewicz whose book  Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life, is based in part on his essays “The Disadvantages of an Elite Education” and “Solitude and Leadership.”. Deresiewicz delivered the speech to the plebe class at the United States Military Academy at West Point in October 2009. In the speech, he noted that solitude is the very essence of leadership. He shared some great insights on bureaucracy, Leadership, multitasking, focus, concentration, social media, and solitude,

True leadership means being able to think for yourself and act on your convictions.

Death ground is a psychological phenomenon that goes well beyond the battlefield: it is any set of circumstances in which you feel enclosed and without options.

Many of us think we have all the time in the world, and we tell ourselves that Someday I’ll, we continuously settle for less than we can become. We go to jobs we hate, stay in toxic relationships, tolerate bad behavior from our family and friends, delay starting the business or taking the vacation, delay living, procrastinate, fail to follow our dreams, and always have a plan B. One of the challenges of having a plan B is that you are likely to go for it until you burn all the bridges; you would always want to go for the path of least resistance. One of the principles that could help with relentlessly executing your goals is the Death Ground Strategy. It involves having a sense of urgency like you are on the war front, and you need to be victorious, or you sink.

For example, in the movie 300, a fictionalized retelling of the Battle of Thermopylae within the Persian Wars. The first battle scene of the movie shows Leonidas, the king of Sparta, motivating his warriors to defend the “Hot Gates,” hence blocking the invading Persian forces of Xerxes into the narrow pass between the rocks and the sea. The Spartans still won the battle with 300 soldiers compared to the over 300,000 invading Persian forces.

Death is nothing, but to live defeated is to die every day. – NAPOLEON BONAPARTE

I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive. – Joseph Campbell

In the early 20th century, while studying world mythology, Joseph Campbell discovered a pattern hidden in every story ever told and he called it “the heroes journey”. The heroes journey, or the monomyth, is the common template of stories that involve a hero who goes on an adventure, is victorious in a decisive crisis and comes home changed or transformed.

Joseph Campbell studied the classical myth traditions, native American mythology. He fell in love with it when he was a kid. He also studied Greek mythology, Arthurian legend, he dissected and really diagrammed all of our stories. He compared philosophies, mythic stories of the whole world. All myths, all movies all novels, all romances He found this one story within all the stories, that we can relate to, no matter where you come from. He recognized that in spite of all the different stories we seem to be telling, there is really only one. And He called it the Hero’s Journey.

The snake that cannot shed its skin must perish.” Frederick Nietzsche

The major difference between the highly successful and not too successful is the way they use their time. We all get 24 hours daily; some of us mindlessly scroll our social media timeline while some people use their time to invest in their business, spending time with their family, and focusing on what really matters to them. Time Management is mostly a myth; what we can really do is to re-order our priorities and focus on what would bring maximum output to us in the long run.

Here are some great books that could help you maximize your productivity and re-order your priorities:

  1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R.Covey (9/10)

    The seven habits of highly effective people is one of my favourite productivity book of all time. Covey present great ideas and strategies for becoming an effective and productive individual such as Become proactive, begin with the end in mid, putting first things first, seek first to understand, before you are understood, sharpening the saw, synergizing, think win/win among other strategies.

“Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do).”

The book is one of the best known and best selling business book of all time with over 30 million copies sold worldwide, It is a classic book that contains lots of strategies and insight for personal change and effectiveness.

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2. The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller (9/10)

In ONE Thing, American Author and Real Estate Entrepreneur Gary Keller argue that prioritizing a single task is the major key to getting things done and achieving extraordinary results. He writes: No matter how success is measured, personal or professional, only the ability to dismiss distractions and concentrate on your ONE Thing stands between you and your goals.

What’s the ONE Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

You have only so much time and energy, so when you spread yourself out, you end up spread thin. You want your achievements to add up, but that actually takes subtraction, not addition. You need to be doing fewer things for more effect instead of doing more things with side effects.


The book discusses the benefits of prioritizing a single task, and it also provides examples of how to engage in those tasks with a singular focus.

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3. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport (9/10)

Deep Work: Professional activities performed in a state of distraction-free concentration that push your cognitive capabilities to their limit. These efforts create new value, improve your skill, and are hard to replicate.

Deep Work is one of the most impactful book have ever read as I made lots of changes to how I work and manage my priorities after reading the book. The Deep work hypothesis: The ability to perform deep work is becoming increasingly rare at exactly the same time it is becoming increasingly valuable in our economy. As a consequence, the few who cultivate this skill, and then make it the core of their working life, will thrive.

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Author and professor Cal Newport argue that cultivating a deep work ethic will produce massive benefits in almost any profession. He also presents a rigorous training regimen, presented as a series of four “rules” for transforming your mind and habits to support this skill. He presents ideas on how we can do less shallow work and more deep work, deepening our focus and productivity.

Shallow Work: Noncognitively demanding, logistical-style tasks, often performed while distracted. These efforts tend to not create much new value in the world and are easy to replicate.

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4. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen (8/10)

In Getting Things Done, American productivity consultant David Allen introduces the readers to a time management tool he called The Getting Things Done (GTD) method. The GTD is based on the idea of moving all items of interest, relevant information, issues, tasks, and projects out of the mind by recording them externally and then breaking them into actionable work items. This allows attention to be focused on taking action on tasks, instead of recalling them.

“If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.”

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5.  Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear.

In Atomic Habits, Author James Clear shares the step-by-step plan for building better habits, why tiny atomic changes can make a big difference in forming good and breaking bad habits. The book is rich with insights, examples, anecdotes, and real-life scenarios for building good habit and breaking bad habits.

Habits are like the atoms of our lives. Each one is a fundamental unit that contributes to your overall improvement. At first, these tiny routines seem insignificant, but soon they build on each other and fuel bigger wins that multiply to a degree that far outweighs the cost of their initial investment.

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Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.― Carl Jung

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6. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown

In Essentialism, Greg McKeown draws on experience and insight from working with the leaders of the most innovative companies in the world to show how to achieve the disciplined pursuit of less. The book goes in-depth on how to pursue less and concentrate on what really matters relentlessly. As an Essentialist, you need to focus on the few really essential things, think of the trade-offs, say no more often, and EXECUTE.

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.” – Lin Yutang

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The way of the Essentialist means living by design, not by default. Instead of making choices reactively, the Essentialist deliberately distinguishes the vital few from the trivial many, eliminates the nonessentials, and then removes obstacles so the essential things have clear, smooth passage. In other words, Essentialism is a disciplined, systematic approach for determining where our highest point of contribution lies, then making execution of those things almost effortless.

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7. The Effective Executive: The Definitive Guide to Getting the Right Things Done by Peter Drucker

In Effective Executive, Management guru Peter Drucker shares some very great insights for becoming an effective executive such as organizing and managing your time, choosing your contribution to the organization, amplifying your strengths, setting the right priorities, and making effective decisions.

The Effective Executive: they concentrate on one task, if at all possible. After picking what needs to be done, set priorities and stick to them.

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The core theme of the effective executive book is managing oneself for effectiveness. That one can truly manage other people is by no means adequately proven. But one can always manage oneself. Indeed, executives who do not manage themselves for effectiveness cannot possibly expect to manage their associates and subordinates

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8. The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

The Compound Effect is based on the principle that decisions shape your destiny. Little, everyday decisions will either take you to the life you desire or to disaster by default.  Darren shares insights gleaned from interviewing and interacting with highly successful people. The Compound Effect is the principle of reaping huge rewards from a series of small, smart choices.

Small, Smart Choices + Consistency + Time = RADICAL DIFFERENCE

Nobody intends to become obese, go through bankruptcy, or get a divorce, but often (if not always) those consequences are the result of a series of small, poor choices.

The premise of the book is that Success is the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal. Succeeding in any field requires putting in the work, and seeing the compounding results over time. Success requires putting in the work daily and consistently over a long time, small, seemingly insignificant steps completed consistently over time will create a radical difference.

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9. The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Achieving More with Less by Richard Koch

The 80/20 Principle shows how we can achieve much more with much less effort, time, and resources, simply by identifying and focusing our efforts on the 20 percent that really counts.

80 percent of all our results in business and in life stem from a mere 20 percent of our efforts.

The unspoken corollary to the 80/20 principle is that little of what we spend our time on actually counts. But by concentrating on those things that do, we can unlock the enormous potential of the magic 20 percent, and transform our effectiveness in our jobs, our careers, our businesses, and our lives.

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10.  Smarter Faster Better: The Transformative Power of Real Productivity by Charles Duhigg.

At the core of Smarter Faster Better are eight key concepts—from motivation and goal setting to focus and decision making—that explain why some people and companies get so much done. Drawing on the latest findings in neuroscience, psychology, and behavioral economics—as well as the experiences of CEOs, educational reformers, four-star generals, FBI agents, airplane pilots, and Broadway songwriters—the book posits that the most productive people, companies, and organizations don’t merely act differently.

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“Productivity is about recognizing choices that other people often overlook. It’s about making certain decisions in certain ways.”

Theme: If you can become more motivated, more focused, better at setting goals and making good decisions, then you’re a long way down the path to becoming more productive.

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11. 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think by Laura Vanderkam

In 168 hours, there is easily time to sleep 8 hours a night (56 hours per week) and work 50 hours a week, if you desire. That adds up to 106 hours, leaving 62 hours per week for other things.

Laura Vanderkam, in her book 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, shares some great insights on how we have more time than we think we do have and how our time can be maximized by focusing on our priorities. 168 Hours is the story of how some people manage to be fully engaged in their professional and personal lives. It is the story of how people take their careers to the next level while still nurturing their communities, families, and souls.

 The weekly 168-hour cycle is big enough to give a true picture of our lives. Years and decades are made up of a mosaic of repeating patterns of 168 hours. Yes, there is room for randomness, and the mosaic will evolve over time, but whether you pay attention to the pattern is still a choice.

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12. Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less by Brian Tracy

There’s an old saying that if the first thing you do each morning is eat a live frog, you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing you’re done with the worst thing you’ll have to do all day. In Eat that Frog, Author Brian Tracy uses eat that frog as a metaphor for tackling our most challenging task first and in the process of overcoming procrastination and in the process getting things done.

“If you have to eat two frogs, eat the ugliest one first.” This is another way of saying that if you have two important tasks before you, start with the biggest, hardest, and most important task first.”.

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All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.

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In his illuminating book The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play, Psychologist and Author Dr. Neil Fiore write about a time-planning/management tool he called “The Unschedule.” I found the tool to effectively deal with procrastination, re-ordering your priorities, and getting things done.

The Unschedule is a weekly calender of committed recreational activities that divides the week into manageable pieces with breaks, meals, scheduled socializing, and play. In addition, it’s a record of your productive, uninterrupted work. It provides producers with a prescheduled commitment to guilt-free time for recreation, plus a realistic look at the actual time available for work.

There is a great native American story between an old Cherokee and his grandson that is often attributed to the Cherokee, Lenape people, or an Eskimo fisherman. The story contains a great parable about the power of focus, mindset, and it is a great anecdote on how we can manage our thought, feelings, and action.

One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside us all. He said to his grandson:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

“Life is a kind of campaign. People have no idea what strength comes to one’s soul and spirit through a good fight.” – Gutzon Borglum (sculptor of Mount Rushmore)

John C. Bogle was the founder and chief executive of The Vanguard Group and is credited with creating the first index fund. In 1999, Fortune named Bogle as “one of the four investment giants of the 20th Century.”  alongside Warren BuffettPeter Lynch, and George Soros. In his book, Enough: True Measures of Money, Business, and Life, Bogle shares great insights on what it truly means to have “enough” in a world increasingly focused on status and score-keeping. He also shared his principles on Money, Business, Life, and Leadership.

On Leadership

“What, then, are the characteristics of good leadership and of good management? On that subject, I have (surprise!) strong opinions, most of them formed in the crucible of my own six decades of business experience, including four decades as a leader—nine years as chief executive of Wellington Management, 22 years as chief of Vanguard, and (if you will) now nine years running Vanguard’s admittedly tiny Bogle Financial Markets Research Center, with its crew of three plus me. So here I speak from my own broad, firsthand, and often hard-won experience.”

10 rules for building a great organization

Rule 1: Make Caring the Soul of the Organization

When I first spoke to our Vanguard crew about caring in 1989, I used these words: “Caring is a mutual affair, involving:

Coded Bias is an American documentary film directed by Shalini Kantayya that premiered at the 2020 Sundance Film Festival. The documentary includes contributions from notable Artificail Intelligence and Facial Recognition Researchers: Joy Buolamwini, Timnit Gebru, Cathy O’Neil, Deborah Raji, Zeynep Tufekci, Safiya Noble,  Meredith Broussard,  Virginia Eubanks, among others.

Coded Bias highlights our collective social misconception about Artificial Intelligence and Facial recognition. The documentary advocates for an urgent need for legislative protection through regulation and moderation.

“You can write down your corporate culture, but when you do so, you’re discovering it, uncovering it—not creating it.” – Jeff Bezos

One of the hallmarks of a great organization is that they have a strong sense of mission and well-defined culture. The 14 Amazon’s Leadership Principles are the guiding principles for executing Amazon’s core vision of becoming the world’s most customer-centric organization. If you want to know what makes Amazon thick or are interviewing for a job at Amazon, the leadership principles is the Amazonian way of getting things done and executing on the overarching vision of the organization.

In their book, Working Backwards: Insights, Stories, and Secrets from Inside Amazon, former Amazonians  Colin Bryar and Bill Carr writes glowing about the 14 Amazon’s Leadership Principles.

The Public Figure documentary investigates the psychological effects of everyday social media use while exploring how our influencers deal with the fame, money, hate, and obsession that comes with it. The documentary features interviews with social media influencers worldwide, such as Bonang Matheba, Emmet Sparling, Thomas Sebastian Tribbie Matheson, Greg O’Gallagher, Denterio Hundon, Emma Rose, and Devour Power. The doc chronicles these influencers’ lifestyle, the effect of social media in their lives. They were interview excerpts from Sean Parker (Facebook Founding President) and Denzel Washington on the effect of too much social media use.

In his book, What It Takes: Lessons in the Pursuit of Excellence, Stephen Schwarzman shares 25 rules for work and life. Schwarzman is the chairman and CEO of The Blackstone Group, a global private equity firm he established in 1985 with former chairman and CEO of Lehman Brothers and US Secretary of Commerce Peter G. Peterson.

Success leaves clues, it is fascinating to learn from one of the smartest and forward thinking entrepreneur of our time. According Forbes, Schwarzman is the 74th richest man in the world with a net worth of $23.4 Billion Dollars as of March 2021. The rules contains lot of profound wisdom that would help every entrepreneur to navigate the roller coaster of business and the vicissitudes of life.

One of my favourite takeaway from reading, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie, is the concept of living in day-tight compartment which is attributed to Sir William Osier.

In 1913, Sir William Osler delivered a speech at Yale University which he called “A way of Life”. He recommends approaching life as a series of “day-tight compartments,” which he likens to the water-tight compartments that keep a ship afloat. He suggested living in day-tight compartment as an antidote for worry, because worrying about either the past or the future is a burden that does nothing but reduce your effectiveness.

If you focus your attention on what you have to do today, then over time, a string of successful days will make for a successful life. He quotes Thomas Carlyle: “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” William Osler primarily attributes his own success not to talent or intelligence, but to good habits, consistently practiced, day after day after day.

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.”

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

In his 1948 self-help book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” Author Dale Carnegie shared an insightful program he attributed to Sibyl F. Partridge. He writes:

Just For Today
 
Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

  1. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
  2. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
  3. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
  4. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.
  5. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.
  6. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.
  7. Just for today I will have a programme. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry and indecision.
  8. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.
  9. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

All the Best in your quest to get Better. Don’t Settle: Live with Passion.